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There's a person on here sealioning in my mentions about mansplaining and demanding criteria for adjudicating whether any individual comment is or is not mansplaining.
This is, of course, asking the wrong question: It's asking "How do I defend myself against accusation?" rather than "How do I interact with people (esp women sharing their expertise) respectfully?"
@emilymbender having read your stuff, I'm not convinced by this purported expertise. You seem to be generally wrong about LLMs.
@emilymbender
Well, ACTUALLY, mansplaining is when ...
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I don't even know what sealioning is!
@emilymbender I sometimes have problems getting social cues or "read the room". Also, I sometimes might tend to infodumping.
My takeaway on many things it to simply hold back and shut up. I have no idea if that's always the right thing to do, but that's what I took away from it.
My #mansplaining takeaway is: never explain anything to anyone, unless being explicitly asked to.
I honestly wonder how that works for shy people or those who don't want to seem dumb for asking. (Could also be me).
@emilymbender those people deserve the mute or block button
@emilymbender @yo_bj looking forward to the same person mansplaining what is or is not sealioning, where by looking forward I mean :headdesk:
@emilymbender What’s sad is that I think the root issue is the constant anxiety associated with social media and being read in bad/confused faith, and rather than lean into the “social” aspect of SM and just continue conversations with those that treat you like a person while accepting that flawed human beings will misread you or you’ll misspeak/be wrong but within the tension lies growth, this guy wants the final cheat code to get out of experiencing social disapproval.
@WhiteCatTamer I read him differently---I don't think he has any anxiety. I think he wants to "prove" that I am wrong for calling someone out for mansplaining (and then calling him out for mansplaining the mansplaining).
@emilymbender Ah, gotcha; swinging right out of the gate. Ugh. Sorry, that’s tiresome. :/
@emilymbender I did not know the term sealioning until just now. I've learned something from you today. Thanks.
@emilymbender I love your work and I am sorry that some servers will not come and get their men
@emilymbender Obviously this person is a dude, right? I'm so sorry you're dealing with this bullshit. It just never stops, does it? 🤦♀️
@lisamelton It's endless, and somehow much worse on the Fediverse than elsewhere.
@emilymbender Ouch! 😬
We need to fix this here but I'm not sure how. If I can help in any way please let me know.
@emilymbender “ … while remaining the smartest person in the room?” I mean, if you can’t show off your expertise, what’s the point of public discourse? 😉
a useful flowchart for the guy,
little hint his decision is bottom left.
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