I need a fellow ADHDer to put into words for Miguel why excessive non-sense questioning (but do you want a tall cup, medium, porcelain, glass...with your coffee) drives us insane. Could you guys help?
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@[email protected] For me, there's a minimum choice cost. Let's call it roughly equivalent to the 'normal' cost of choosing a course from a menu. Now imagine every one of those 'trivial' questions takes as much energy to answer as being sent back to the starters and having to choose again @[email protected]
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@mavnn to me is more like every stupid question that shouldn't be asked, knowing the cost of context switching, generates such amount of frustration all I feel afterwards is anger.
And anger is the worst feeling to have when you're trying to keep a massive code abstraction in your head.
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@[email protected] oh, definitely that too, but I suppose I was trying to put why they're so annoying into words. It having being part of life for years, it happening to me is infuriating... @[email protected]
@mavnn like a board game, back to the start @actuallyadhd
@maikel I have a relatively vague mental image of what I want. "I want caffeine. Hot. Cup of coffee." and I try to take my time to decide on what from the menu I should order (I also let other customers skip in front of me when I'm not sure yet.) Then I manage to decide, and have more formed idea, something useful. And then these questions come, and they destroy the idea I had and replace it with pressure to decide on something I don't know anymore. And then I just don't want it anymore. Just no
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@zombiecide that's the best metaphor I've found to explain it
@maikel @actuallyadhd I find this particularly draining because with every new question, my brain opens up a new mental path that it wants to explore and flesh out
Every additional trivial question means a new task it needs to pursue and that it needs to fill with countless, beautiful images.
What’s exhausting for me is that the next questions come up before I’ve even satisfactorily processed the previous one internally.
At least, that’s how I struggle.
Does that even makes sense?
Imagine the human brain as a device with a finite batterie.
An ADHD brain already needs more energy for daily tasks because focus is defective and doesn't work flawlessly.
Every decition takes the same amount of energy, no matter how big or small the decition is.
To be asked to do so many decitions drains the restenergy very fast, and sets the brain into overwhelm mode in that no processing can be done anymore.
Every further question feels like a punch while helpless
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@v_d_richards that's brilliant. Thank you @actuallyadhd
@maikel
me: I'd like a chicken burrito to go, please. No crema.
them: No problem. Here or to go?
me: To go.
them: What kind of meat?
me: Chicken.
them: Everything on it?
me: No crema.
them: Here or to go?
me: To go, thanks.
them: Here you go. Enjoy your tacos!
(I hope that helps)
@maikel @actuallyadhd Because every external input irrevocably erases the train of thought we were following, and whilst we desperately try to remember what we had been thinking up to that point (and what that option was again), further options bombard us as stimuli and overwhelm us.
